Tuesday, December 7, 2010

That Chapter Is Done, Well I'm Done Reading for Now

I spent 2 or 3 years however you want to count it loving this man and what happens it crumbles. I learned that I wont be played with any longer. I mean it was the hardest breakup ever and it was never even official. It's crazy right you can live with someone and not know them. I mean I'm better now. It's just a lesson that I had to learn even though I avoided it for as long as I could. I grew up and that meant leaving him behind. I finally learned I deserved not to share the man I love, so I stopped sharing. I mean I cried myself to sleep so many times, but things are better this way. The only thing that makes me upset is that I can't say if he came back the right way that I would turn him down. I still love him, but that's natural right. I sure hope it is. The craziest thing is that he told me he misses me and I didn't even let it affect me because I know he's still the same. You can't always have who you want. You have to wait for the person God has for you.

-Shakiyah Ivory

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Yes, You can call it a comeback.

Oh How I've missed thee. I mean without my blog I've been quite lost, so I'm coming back. Everyone needs an outlet and this blog is definitely mine. I'm over the no computer blues. I'm just going to steal my roommates. A lot has been going on, so I have so much to tell you all. I haven't styled anything in forever so I know I'll have great looks for the winter. I lost it for a while, but I'm back. This time I hope never to leave, maybe expand, but NEVER leave. Don't worry I won't go back on my word. So spread the word for everyone to come back here Monday at 8pm to see what I have in store.

- Shakiyah Ivory xoxox

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Been Gone for a MInute

I still haven't bought a computer. Please don't ask me where my money has been going because I honestly don't know. I really would like to get my computer back, so I can get back to you all. I honestly miss you guys so much. I feel like I have been abusing our relationship. It's ridiculous. Well if you are wondering I'm still single, going to school, and aspiring to be one of the hugest celebrity stylists out there. I hope to accomplish all that I set out to do. Don't worry I'll be back soon lovelies.

A little Kiyah on KIyah Action lmaoo

The love I have for myself stops me from losing myself in any relationship I enter.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

All to Myself

Like, when did I become the type to share? I mean I share, but not my man. Is he changing me and if so is this for better or worse? These thoughts have been running through my mind lately. I mean we've been dating for six months and we still haven't made it official. I even knew him a year before we started dating, so what does that mean?
I mean there is no doubt in my head that if I said I was leaving if things don't become official that he wouldn't make it happen, but I don't wanna bring it up. I want him to. I mean yes we are a million and when I say a million miles away from each other I mean it, but I thought love conquers all.
Part of me never brings it up because I think it would be unfair to make a young man that has it all together give up his single life to be in a monogamous relationship with a girl who lives a 7-9 hour drive away. So, why do I care about this dumb title?
Oh, that's it. I don't like to share, but I share for him because this is not the simplest situation. WE are BOTH in college with jobs and leadership positions in organizations on campus, so we don't have the most time. It gets stressful and I can be a total BITCH at times, but he doesn't trip. And even though he is a million miles away he is ALWAYS there when I need him.
And when we do finally see each other it's always wonderful. I feel at ease and he's a sweetheart. I mean I just want to be his girl and I know that titles aren't everything, but I'm tired of going on pointless dates and entertaining conversations when I know what I want. Shoot me I'm selfish!
I mean I won't be saying anything to him about this because I want for him to want it. I don't want to be in a relationship because he thinks he has to do this in order to not lose me. I want for him to be in it because that's what he wants.
I mean at the end of the day I'm happy, but it just weirds me out that he's not my man. Well, he is MY MAN and I have no problem acting like the crazy girlfriend even though I don't have the title. He never stops me either it's like we know what it is, so what if it isn't broadcasted.
I just don't want to lose myself. I don't want to change because of him, but maybe that's what relationships are about. Learning from one another and changing for the better. I mean, but who says this is better? I don't know. I've just been thinking.


Thursday, May 13, 2010

Baby Lemme Style You!

Hey Guys,
I broke my laptop, so I can't post as much as I'd like. However, I did style a new outfit. It's ideally for date on the beach for sunset. It's real relaxed and will work fine with numerous body types. I kept everything real simple and feminine. It's fine for dinner too, but I just think it's really cute for a walk on the beach during sunset. Hopefully, him & I will still have our get away this summer and I'll be able to recreate this outfit. I hope you all like it.


Monday, May 3, 2010

Proud Mama Moment

Major shoutouts to my friend Chloe for having the lead role in Wale's video for his song Diary. She did an amazing job. It's great to see my friends making moves. I love my only friend from Seattle. lol The people I met at Howard University never cease to amaze me.


Friday, April 30, 2010

When In Boredom

Throughout all this boredom I discovered this : "I don't have a twin because the world wouldn't know how to handle it"


Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Baby Lemme Style You....

My closet has been drowned in black lately and I just want to get back to wearing colors. So, this was a start. lol

Baby Lemme Style You....

I saw these pants and fell in love. So, it was only right that I put them with an outfit. You wouldn't want nothing that would battle with the pants, so I kept it simple. The black gives it a bad girl look and the red lipstick is proven to be lethal. You can say tnank you now. lol


Yeah, I'm a student at Howard University. One of the top 100 schools in the Nation and that's an accomplishment in itself. Yes I'm a mentor to a group of high school students in Washington D.C. Yes, I have two blogs that are doing exceptionally well. Yes, I have my own apartment, but I want more. I want to be a business woman. I want for people to look at me and see someone who is accomplishing things. I'm hungry to be handling business. I want to be a publicist, stylist, journalist, and philanthropist. I'm looking for the next move. I want to take it. I'm tired of waiting for an opportunity to arise. I'm ready to make my own break. Right now I'm super hungry. I mean I'm 20 and I don't know about you all, but I know that in 5 years I plan to be well off. I don't have time to waste. Sometimes I feel like I'm standing still and and the world is racing around me. I hate that feeling and I need to do something about it a.s.a.p.

The Whole Nicki Beef Thing

Since, Public Relations is my major I figured I'd talk about all these female rappers that are coming out of the wood works and attacking Nicki Minaj. It's quite funny because everyone seems to forget that when Nicki first started rapping she wasn't animated. She actually can rap and that's how she got to where she is right now. This animated shit is nothing more than acting and is used as a source to entertain people. She actually was a Drama major in high school. Nicki Minaj is talented and if you seriously beg to differ do your research I'm sure you would change your mind. Now I'm sure that a lot of you all don't like the image she displays to little kids, but maybe her music isn't for little kids. If your a parent you can control what they see or hear. I know my parents did.

Now these girls who trying to create "beef" are just trying to get a lot of shine because they know people like drama. They are trying to get recognized because they know people are attracted to drama. They want to get signed too. So when Nicki does not release a track to battle with them don't think she's scared. She just doesn't have to defend herself against them. I mean who are they?!!? No one. They can't mess with her money, so why would she help these girls get a little fame off her name. Nicki is doing what anyone with common sense would do. The only beefs that get responses are those between two established people. None of these girls are any competition as of now.


Who told them this was okay? I literally shook my head at this video.Rasheeda sounds like a horrible Nicki Minaj. Toya I love you, but you aren't a rapper. Kandi your too old for this. Lola Monroe do I really have to say anything about you? This is foolishness.

Monday, April 26, 2010

20 Things for my 20th Birthday

Now that I'm no longer a teen I have some things to say. I hope that you would read & enjoy.

1. Always stay grounded. No matter how good your life is don't forget what made you who you are because everything could be taken away from you in a split second.

2. Never hesitate to tell the person you love that you "love them" because you never know what may happen.

3. Never ever let a past relationship make you scared to fall in love. You might find your fairytale when you least expect it.

4. Don't mix brown and black. I really hate that ish. lol

5. Get a twitter. Trust me you will have things to say.

6. Put God first and your life will be sweeter.

7. If you are going to go to Howard realize that you will have to grind. This school is a life lesson. Yeah, you get an education, but that's not the greatest thing you receive here.

8. You only live once. Remember that.

9. Be loyal. Karma is a high blower when you do the wrong things.

10. Work hard, but play harder. You never want to spend your whole life working. It's meant to be enjoyed.

11.Life is about making things happen. Things will go wrong, but you gotta make things happen. Your life is only gonna turn out the way you allow it.

12. It's not about finding the perfect man that does no wrong. It's about finding the right one that you can grow with.

13.Everyone makes mistakes. It's about learning from them so they wont be mistakes, they'll be learning experiences.

14. Never do anything that you don't want to do. It's your life you don't have to please everyone.

15. You can do whatever you please. It's just about putting the work in to make it happen.

16. Everyone needs some alone time. Don't allow others to drain you out.

17. Your homegirls and you man do not need to be best of friends.

18. Trust is to be earned not given.

19. Things have to get bad sometimes, so you can appreciate the good.

20. Believe in yourself no matter what anyone says. If you don't believe in yourself who will?

Monday, April 12, 2010

Do I Want That Old Thing Back?

I keep getting this question & I don't know why, but I figured I'll put all that I know about it here so I can make it clear.

Every time my friends get drunk they ask me "Do I miss or still love my ex or whatever you want to call him?"

Of course I still love him, but I'm definitely not in love with him. I'm still his friend and since I'm single we still tend to hang out, but I think I can honestly say I'm over him. Yeah I'm past the idea of us being together because he made it clear that I wasn't what he wanted. Your probably wondering why I still hang with him though. Well even though he never wanted a relationship with me he never "not wanted" me. I always see him as being confused about what he wanted and although I could be the best thing for him he obviously was not the best thing for me. I'll always sparkle in his eye because of who I am and the way I handled the situation and he'll always be the "homie" until I have a boyfriend who doesn't want us around each other. It's almost as if we have a bond that refuses to break. It can get quite confusing and people are probably wondering how do I keep myself from falling back in love. It's really not that hard. I mean yeah our good times will definitely out weigh the bad times, but the moments that made me realize he wasn't what I needed stood out way more. I will admit that we don't have the most innocent relationship, but he doesn't have my heart anymore.

Plus, I have someone new that treats me exactly how I deserve to be treated and sure he's a million miles away, but I wouldn't risk losing him to be in a hell that is around the corner. I'm not needy for anyone's company or acceptance, so I have no problem being single.

I'm not saying that my ex and I will never get back together because I simply don't know what the future holds, but I can tell you this I wont settle. Even though sometimes I am my happiest with my ex he couldn't commit himself to me and I deserve my own man. I refuse to share with another female. Maybe if more females knew their self worth they would understand exactly where I am coming from.


Saturday, April 10, 2010

Nicki meets XXL

Now, many of you all hate her, but I happen to love her, so just shut up right now. Nicki Minaj's new photo shoot for XXL happens to be a wonderful work of art. You can't deny her right now. I mean if you can't respect this shoot you just have nothing else to do but hate. Just support her and get the magazine.


Friday, March 26, 2010

Baby Lemme Style You....

Hey Guys,
I haven't been posting a lot because school is literally kicking my butt. It seems like I can never get a full night of sleep these days. Howard can be so demanding at times. I did get a chance to style a new outfit though. I fell in love with the dress, so I had to do something with it. The dress stands alone and may be called a statement dress, so when wearing something like this you want to keep it very simple. Accessories should be minimal and make up should be subtle. A very natural face with a pale pink or nude lip color. Your hair should definitely be up. I think a nice little sloppy bun would be great. You don't want to have anything clashing with the dress. So let the dress speak for itself. I hope you all enjoy it and if you want to see my style anything for any occasion just leave a comment and I will make sure I get to all your requests as soon as possible. Oh and don't forget to check my other blog out at IvoryNoire.wordpress.com


Sunday, March 7, 2010


So guys, I have a treat for you all. My accomplice and I have started a new blog that will be your guide to all things beautiful. IvoryNoire.wordpress.com

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Let's Work It Out

Hey Guys, I know I have been a little absent, but it's midterms this week and I've been super busy. I have a little outfit for you all. It's not ready to go. It would need a few alterations, but I have a vision. I hope you guys can see it too.

Well, first we have to roll the dress sleeves up and cuff the jacket sleeves because I think that always makes things cuter. It makes things look a little edgier, well that's what I believe anyway. The jacket has to stay open closing it would kill the outfit, so make sure it's nice out. The length of the skirt troubles me. I'm short, so I like to show some leg. I think I would personally have to make it a tad bit shorter, but if your tall it's probably fine. Now, for accessories I pick this necklace because it gives the illusion of layers. I love to layer necklaces. I also prefer gold over silver. Now if you left the skirt longer I would say do the ankle boot, but if its short definitely do the riding boot. Now that my work is done, I have to get back to school work.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Neutral Look

So, I told you guys that neutrals were in for Spring 2010. I wanted to give an example, so I styled an outfit that is full of neutrals. I love it and I hope you guys will do your best to imitate because some of the items in the set are fairly expensive.


Vinnie's Styles

So, every once in a blue moon I take a look at vinniesstyles.com. I was introduced to this store by a boy I used to talk to from Brooklyn. Vinnie's Styles is actually his favorite store. I've only been once, but he always dressed well, so if any males are looking for a new place to shop at there you have it. Celebrities like Fabolous, Diddy, and Jim Jones have been spotted in apparel you can find here. They have a store in Brooklyn and one in Atlanta, so if you are in the area don't be afraid to stop by.

Now that I have shouted them out lets get to what I really made this post for. I fell in love with this crew neck. I want it so bad, but if for men, so it prolly wont fit me right. I don't know if I'm going to let this stop me. I have to try it on before I can make a final decision. It's $120.00, but who could put a price on looking great. I can't. lol


Bring T-Shirts Back

Looking to add some urban flare to your closet? I mean sure we all want to look like ladies, but what about adding a little edge? T-shirts are still in and I feel like people try so hard to stray away from them they forget that t-shirts are a staple. You should always have a few good t-shirts in your closet.

Now that you are looking for cute t-shirts with an urban flare read closely. Go to karmaloop.com and take a look at the Married to the Mob collection. They always have cute stuff. You wont be able to leave without finding one t-shirt that you like. The shirt below is my current favorite. Now go find your favorite. Feel free to browse throughout the whole website. You will even be able to find some nice stuff for the lucky man in your life.


Fashion Week Favorites

Herve Leger Fall 2010 has stole my heart this fashion week.


Kardashian for Your Closet

I love the Kardashians. So, when the buzz about their line for Bebe started I was extremely overwhelmed. Monica Rose does a great job styling them and I'm sure that they have definitely learned some things from her. I was sure the line would be faboulous.

It is doing extremely well and has already began to sell out. Unfortunately for me I have no money because I'm a starving college student, but I'm sure some of you can afford to put a little Kardashian in your closet. You wont regret it. So take yourself over to bebe.com and get to shopping.


2 Tips for the Spring

I noticed I started to get away from my fashion posts and I'm sorry about that. I'm a work in progress, so bare with me. Now I have a treat for you guys. I have two tips for the spring.

Tip #1: Get a trench coat. They are definitely a must for the spring. They come in many different styles and an array of colors. You can find one in any price range. The picture shows one from Burberry, but H&M carries trench coats also. Trust me on this one.

Tip #2: Neutral colors are in this spring, so take advantage of them. This runway look is from Blumarine.

Now that I have given you some advice forgive me for my lack lately. I promise to do better with more fashion posts. I know thats what alot of you come here for.

Rose Cordero

For the first time since 2002 French Vogue will have a woman of color alone on their cover. The March issue features the 18-year-old Rose Cordero.Mert Alas and Marcus Piggott shot the shoot. She's originally from the Dominican Republic and begun modeling in 2008 during the Dominican Republic Fashion Week. She has walked in shows for Marc Jacobs, Burbery, Diane Von Furstenberg, and many more. I'm going to keep my eye out for her because I feel as though she will be going a long way.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

The Weekend.

So I told you guys that this past weekend would be big for me and I'm glad to let you know it definitely was a success. So, he's not my man, but he traveled all the way from Buffalo, Ny to Washington D.C. to see little ol' me. I've known him for a little over a year, but I guess we started "talking" in December. If you would have told me this a year ago I would have looked at you like you were insane. The best things in life are unexpected. See, I do like the finer things in life, but I am the easiest girl to please. I have a father who supplies my needs and wants. I don't need my "man" for financial stability. I need my "man" to give me emotional support, motivation, good laughs, stability, and security. Now, don't get me wrong I can't stand broke men, but I don't need you too spend tons of money on me.

I need to know you listen to me. This weekend he showed me that he listens. I hate flower, but I love roses. They don't have to be red, but they have to be roses. He got me roses. I told him I love fruit and he got me an edible arrangement. I told him I like gifts that show that you put thought into it and he mad a stuffed animal at Build A Bear. The wildest thing is that I told him all of this in like December; however, that shows he listens. I'm shocked and so happy.When I left him at the airport I was sad, but I'll be making it out to Buffalo soon enough. We don't get to see each other often, but when we do see one another its very special. Everything went right this weekend and I can't help but feel in my heart that this is a beautiful beginning to something that will last. I hope everyone's Valentines Day was as good as mine. Maybe one day you guys can see a picture of us, but not yet. I'm sure I'll be doing more posts about this.

Thursday, February 11, 2010


Today is a big day. This weekend is a big weekend. Let's just pray it all goes well because yesterday definitely didn't go the way it was supposed to be. Either way I'll post the results.

Monday, February 8, 2010

In Honor of Black History Month

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!!

Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females' attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too
materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on; but right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us! Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl,
Somewhere in VA

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the
white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women and, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert De Niro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women; I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why
do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman, Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children; someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty

Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of our acquaintances!

Congrats Reggie

I love them. They're definitely one of my favorite couples.They compliment each other well. They're both busy and very successful. I love the love. lol

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Beyonce Sings for The Kiddies

She plays the fall off good, but I much rather watch her sing to the kids.

Saturday, February 6, 2010


Beauty Without an Effort

Zoe Saldana is effortlessly gorgeous. I love the Giambattista Valli Spring 2010 strapless mini print dress. That is all.

Walk In Lust.....

You know I have the horrible habit of looking on websites that I know I can't afford. I stumbled over these bad boys at net-a-porter.com and boy oh boy am I in lust. I just wish I could afford these. I have a vision for the spring and it includes this khaki trench coat & these bomb shoes. However, these are PROENZA SCHOULER, so you know I can't afford them. lol Maybe one of you guys can and will buy them and send me a picture. Okay, I must get back to the fantasy shopping. lol

Runway to Rihanna

I like this on Rihanna. She redeemed herself from the Grammys with this one.She's just gorgeous.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

I Think They Call This...Ummm Venting

Sometimes....I get in this mood where I want to be in love. I look at Beyonce and Jay-Z and find them ridiculously adorable. I look at my parents and see a young love that lasted. I look on facebook and see pictures of couples making silly faces. Then I look through my pictures and see memories of him and I. I remember all the good times and I get an urge to let him back in. Instantly I get a flash of all the laughs, smiles, kisses,hugs, and tears. It's like a rush and I realize that we aren't what each other needs at this moment. I toss those memories back to the back and I exit out all the pictures.
Then I think about the present time. I'm very intrigued, by the new guy, but it's new. Part of me never wants to let it grow because I don't want to let anyone close enough that I seem vulnerable. Then every time I try to find something wrong with him he does the opposite. I want to go there with him, but it seems like I find myself making a list of imaginary reasons as why not to. Then, since I'm trying to not get too attached I take baby steps back.
After I think about all of this I usually fall back to my father. I rest in our relationship. He's the leading man in my life and that's good for now, but sometimes I wonder if that's just going to be my story. I know I'm young and all, but I can't help but wonder.This didn't even accomplish anything though. I just vented. lol

Saturday, January 30, 2010

I'm In Love

Kristin looks nice, but I could really care less about her. I'm in love with the DRESS. I have to have it. I'm sure its out of my budget. These photos are actually from an ASOS shoot. Brett Bailey styled the shoot and he did an amazing job. The dress is by Rafeal Cennamo and the shoes are YSL.


Friday, January 29, 2010

Why Kelis Why?????

I know she's unique and all, but this is a hot mess. It looks like a.....I don't even know.

The Jawn Is Badd


The Art of Taking 3 Steps Back

Females are wonderful and all, but I can't stand that emotional part of us. You know the part that blindfolds us and puts us in the cuffs. These emotions can be dangerous; however it only gets worse when we start thinking. You know trying to be like a scientist when it comes to all this how can I prevent my heart from being broken.

See, I'm that female. I will say, "never judge your present on your past." Then it hits me in the middle of the night when I'm thinking. You know those thoughts, like, "If everything sounds right it has to be game. That's the whole point of Game. It captivates you." So, then I'm like wtf?!? I just been G'd. I'm falling for this man and this could all be G. I get frustrated and because every one that I have ever been serious with has messed up, I remove myself from the equation. I do the 3 Steps.

1. I no longer refer to you as boo or babe or anything besides your name.
2. Then I appear to busy. I don't text or call as much.
3. Eventually I stop all the things that made you want me in the first place. I shut down.

Some boys spot it and confront it. If you confront it, I snap back into the person before the "3 steps". Some take it as I don't want to be bothered and leave the scene. This is a problem. I can't keep doing this. I call it catching myself before I fall.I don't want to fall victim to thinking I am protecting my heart. I need help. I don't want to lose the one because of my stupid tactics. Obviously if I feel the need to bring out the "3 Steps" I'm really into you and you must be showing me that your into me. The "3 steps" occur before it can ever be official. The worst thing about it is that I actually think heavily before I carry the action out.

The super sad thing is that I'm not the only female who does this. Why? Us females are confusing as hell. We are either giving someone a million chances or not giving someone a single chance. Men please don't be excited because I am female bashing because I have something for you too.

Thursday, January 28, 2010

A Lil Humor

I saw this in the Spring of last year. I retrieved it for you guys. lol

Celeb Style

I think staying on top of your style is like taking a class in college. The only difference is that it never ends and you never have the same text book. I like to stay up on everything. That doesn't mean I follow every trend, but I try my best not to be lost on it at all. So here are some cute outfits that were spotted this week. If you looking for a new way to arrange things already in your closet check these ladies out. Oh, shout outs to these guys stylists.

Who Did It Best??

So, the one that is in back order is from Urban Outfitters and I am in complete lust with it. It's only $38, but you probably wont find me in it because everyone is going to have it. That's why it is in back order. I would hate to be in the club and see 5 other girls with the same thing on.
The other one is the famous already worn out one from American Apparel. It's $40. I loved it, but everyone has this. If I was to succumb to looking like everyone else I would definitely choose the one from Urban though.


Tuesday, January 26, 2010

"That's Her"


Okay, so the first time I read this and I fell in love with it. Then last night I was on the phone with HIM and he says to his line brothers..."That's my Baby." I instantly thought of this last line and I'm convinced that he is what I need right now. I just had to share it with you guys because it's been amazing every since we started talking. I don't get my hopes up high or anything, but I definitely enjoy this present time. Yeah I'm hype, but so what we all have these moments.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010


So, I have some things to say.
These things go vice/versa.
(When things are in all caps, I'm yelling)

Males do not play with any one's emotions. Let people move on. It's not okay for you to not know what you want when it comes to someone else's feelings. Mixed signals are not okay. It's not any one's problem, but yours that your not mature enough to decide what you really want. Grow up.
Females do not go in circles. Yeah he's a jerk for leading you in these circles, but it's your fault that the circle keeps revolving. You need to realize your worth. You, yeah you deserve to have your own man. You shouldn't have to share the man you truly care about with another girl. If you don't understand this you deserve to be in this dumb cycle.
Females it is okay to cry. Yeah, it's okay. I'm so sick and tired of people telling females not to cry. Crying is a release. You can find some of the best closure by crying.
Males and females please stop cheating. It's pointless. I mean if you really want to do the real thing, just admit that you are not ready for a relationship. Most people would rather be broken up with then to be cheated on.
Females please stop making the present significant other pay for the last one's mistakes. This is not okay. It means you have not moved on and should not be dating.
Females remember boys will always talk to the girl with less standards when they are not ready for a relationship. It has nothing to do with you, it's just the easier option. Take it as a compliment.
Last, but not least please stop being afraid of love. IT IS OKAY TO FALL IN LOVE.